I don't think my parents intended to neglect me. Like you, I had the necessities of life, but my brother was the one they put their effort into. I was the one who could never live up to their expectations. I was the scapegoat for the family. I don't believe they even realize how their neglect contributed to my problems. They just showed their disappointment, and put more effort into raising my brother, their favorite. Believing it was unintentional has helped me with forgiveness, though I have no contact with my family now. Just because I forgive them doesn't mean I will allow them to continue to treat me with disrespect.