I didn't like the person I had become living in the environment (marriage) I was living in. I had become a very ANGRY person & definitely not even the kind of person I would want to be around. When I finally left, I was able to find the me I had lost after so many years of fighting. I guess in reality, I loved myself enough to get out of where I was because it gave me the peace to stop fighting & being angry at everyone & everything around me. It has taken years & good therapy, but I learned just how much effect our environment has on our personality when we feel trapped. Fight or flight.....I usually chose FIGHT & it is so nice to not feel that way any longer. I still stand up for myself but seldom ever feel the need to fight any more & really like the me I had lost after so many years