I agree that his comments about worthless, etc are abusive and totally unacceptable. Tell him forcefully to stop verbally abusing you and take action if he doesn’t. Get tested as Sarah suggested. Start a separate bank account and get at least one credit card in yr name. Start couples counseling immediately. Get a job if you don’t have one. Would you be able to live w yr parents if you decide to leave him? Have a consultation w an attorney. Consultations are often free. Read up on domestic violence, especially verbal abuse which can escalate. Abusers are often nice after an incident so they can continue the pattern. He needs to shape up or ship out.