If youre allowed to feel hurt, isnt he allowed to feel hurt? With the phone call session, he is offering you an opportunity to not just take your balls and go home. Imo, that is what is "ruining" the relationship. Imo, its not really ruining it, its just deferring the cure to a later time. If youre not ready to talk on the phone to him now, well youre just not ready. No biggie. "Leap and the net will appear." No leap, no net. Your choice.