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Originally Posted by unaluna
If youre allowed to feel hurt, isnt he allowed to feel hurt? With the phone call session, he is offering you an opportunity to not just take your balls and go home. Imo, that is what is "ruining" the relationship. Imo, its not really ruining it, its just deferring the cure to a later time. If youre not ready to talk on the phone to him now, well youre just not ready. No biggie. "Leap and the net will appear." No leap, no net. Your choice.
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I completely disagree. That may be how it worked for you - and that is fine- but it is not universal and certainly nothing I hired a therapist for. The therapist's feelings had absolutely no place in any therapy I hired them for. I paid them to stay back and keep their feelings, if they had any which I doubt, to themselves to deal with on their on time. To me, this sort of blame the victim by other people who have been clients is like that thing where some people start identifying with the enemy.
There is a monty python reference for everything:
Oh what I wouldn't give to be spat at in the face....my idea of heaven is to be allowed to be placed in manacles just for a little time
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Last edited by stopdog; Nov 26, 2019 at 02:19 PM.
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