Hi
I met my online friend on a fanfiction site.

She wants to be a published author. She seems to think that her fanfiction is basically publishable, only has to change names and a few plot points.

I tried to be gentle and supportive, but realistic. Not sure I managed it.

I feel bad for telling her she probably needs to do a lot of work on her fics and they're not as unique as she thinks they are. I tried to be very polite about it.

And I suggested she join a writer's group so that she can meet with people who can really advise her.

My question is: how do you manage the balance between being a good friend and an unspportive one?

Should I have only told her to "go for it!"? I'm worried I've knocked her confidence or not been the friend she needs and deserves,

I should also add, she's middle-aged, with kids and a part time job.