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Originally Posted by stopdog
I completely disagree. That may be how it worked for you - and that is fine- but it is not universal and certainly nothing I hired a therapist for. The therapist's feelings had absolutely no place in any therapy I hired them for. I paid them to stay back and keep their feelings, if they had any which I doubt, to themselves to deal with on their on time. To me, this sort of blame the victim by other people who have been clients is like that thing where some people start identifying with the enemy.
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Point taken. I only mentioned it because it reminded me very sharply of a turning point in my own therapy. I am not judging the intensity or sincerity of the ts feelings, only that NP and my situations were similar, where we were faced with a person (okay, a t!) who had objectively wronged us.
As a child and even as an adult, i was ostracized for similar behavior, and therefore my only reactions were to either ostracize others, or allow too much. Working with a t may give one the opportunity to develop effective boundaries.