KLL85 - that's your moral code. What's acceptable between him & his wife may be totally different. (After all, some people are even in open marriages.) For instance, I have no problem with my husband using porn. In fact, we both use it, and we're both perfectly happy with this.

You're not being irrational - what works for you is just different. You have every right to not want your own partner to look at porn. You have every right to have feelings and reactions about this, and, honestly, we all Google our therapists...it's normal. you are allowed to have reactions, and you're allowed to say "I can't work through this" and move on. I'm just encouraging you to hold a dual focus; your reaction (valid) and also to understand that he also has a right to have a totally different set of sexual beliefs and rules in his life.