Honeybunnies,

Every time we open our mouths and speak, we reveal parts of our inner world.

One behavior that never failed to set me off was when someone treated me with arrogance or disdain. And that was because my abusers cemented that problem in place by down-grading me non-stop. It also reflected how wounded my self-esteem was.

The best way to deal with bullies is to ignore them, if you can. Block them online or find a different website that suits your needs better.

Here's an example of how I handled a bully on Facebook a few years back.

Some British comedian had passed away and seeing the announcement on Facebook, I asked who the person was. I had never heard of him.

Someone responded with something to this effect: Do you live in a cave, how can you not know who this is?

When I read her comment, I remember thinking, is she talking to me?

So, I asked: Are you talking to me?

Turns out, she was and continued to be snotty.

So I responded with this:

Why on earth would you say that to a complete stranger?

When I went back later to check on it, someone had deleted her comments. I still don't know who the comedian was.

Anyway, that encounter was online, so it was easier to disengage. I need to think about bullies I have managed face to face, because right now I am drawing a blank.