Hi bean.

I would ask. Of course, I would do it in a "cute" way such as to say something like this:

T: How are you feeling about my vacation?
Bean: Well, I am feeling really you know, .....
T: I don't know. What are you feeling?
Bean: I dont know
T: What are you afraid of?
Bean: I don't know and I don't care about your stupid vacation
T: I think you DO care
Bean: No I don't...go away and don't come back
T: You know I am coming back
Bean: No, I dont. You hate me!
T: I am coming back and I don't hate you
Bean: (crying)
T; What can help you????
Bean: Nothing (crying)
T: Let's try and think what can help you not feel abandoned by me.
Bean.........um, huh, um, maybe that box you were making for me
(with a click glance to T)
Bean: But, if it is too much, I don't need anything

Will that work?????? LOL