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Originally Posted by luvyrself
I'm 16 and no, there aren't any relatives who could help out. To give you a little context, in india, even if your husband is abusive, the general line of thinking is that you DO NOT leave your husband because that will bring a lot of shame to your family. My mother has considered leaving my father but she always gets scared because we truly have nowhere to go. Even my mom's business is on my father's property and he keeps threatening to take it away. And my mother is rarely ever allowed to even visit her parents or friends because then my father thinks that she isn't giving HIM enough attention.
Abd i just want to take a moment to thank you for writing this. The support I've received on this forum has been overwhelming honestly.
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Hello Saishaa,
You, your little brother and your mom have a serious problem in your father. Given the cultural context, your options are pretty limited. Your mother siding with your father in the last abusive episode that your described is pretty horrific and indicative of how much your father has worn your mother down.
It's your mom's job to be looking for ways to deflect abuse from the kids and to find a way out of the mess.
Running with 2 kids in tow and in school is not quite the same thing in India as it might be elsewhere in the world. And the "shame" factor tends to lock many people into bad situations. However, things are changing in India as well.
Were your parents married as a result of an arranged marriage? If not, your mom has less leeway with asking her side of the family for support.
Regardless, you do have the child help line available to you. And it would be a good idea to check around what is available to you online in your area of India as well.