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Originally Posted by rdgrad15
Is anyone else bothered by those who come off as overly nice, like, way too nice. Basically to the point where it seems like forced politeness and that they are not really that happy at that particular moment or just may not be that into talking to you? Just wondered if anyone has experienced this where they meet someone who seems way too nice to the point where it makes you feel uncomfortable, making you believe there is something not right about how they're speaking and acting.
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Yes. It's oily. Like listening to grease being pushed through a hydraulic pump
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Almost like they are either secretly not as happy as they are putting on or they really just don't feel like talking to you but feel obligated to do so. Does this make you uncomfortable when you encounter these people? If it's a stranger, it's enough to make you want to do them a favor and end the conversation early, which is what I do. If it's a close friend, I'll ask if everything is okay. It all depends on who it is.
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Friends are rarely if ever "oily". They know if they want something to just ask. If they beat around the bush, the answer will be No.
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I've been told by some people, usually by extremely naive extroverts that there is no such thing as being overly nice. I think it can happen. There's nothing wrong with being nice but I believe it only goes so far before it comes off as fake and makes you uncomfortable. In this scenario, I've actually quickly brought conversations to a quick end with those who act this way. Usually this person will have a smile that they will not get rid of at all and it doesn't even look natural. They may also be speaking in the same way you would talk to an infant.
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Agreed.
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Also their body language will give off the impression that something is off so I have done them a favor by going about my business and they never seem disappointed by it. If anything, they either seemed relieved or at least just unaffected. How do you respond when you run into people like this? Do you think there's a reason some people are like that? Just wondered. It can be uncomfortable and even feel a little downgrading if it's coming from someone you don't know.
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Just smile, nod my head, and think my thoughts.