Kit - what needs to change? Are you waiting for your parents to die? I was trapped like that. I was trapped like that. Im not as crazy as i thought i was. I can say that now that they are both gone. Its so hard to get perspective. Its easier with money. One thing i learned that i hated to learn, was that there were a lot of wrong assumptions being made on both sides. Thats why its so important to take responsibility for your own side / self.

Eta - like they were providing leadership in ways they thought i needed and wanted, but i did not, and they didnt really want to either, but they never said anything, they just acted strict and i stayed afraid.