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Originally Posted by Saishaa
Hello Saishaa,
You, your little brother and your mom have a serious problem in your father. Given the cultural context, your options are pretty limited. Your mother siding with your father in the last abusive episode that your described is pretty horrific and indicative of how much your father has worn your mother down.
It's your mom's job to be looking for ways to deflect abuse from the kids and to find a way out of the mess.
Running with 2 kids in tow and in school is not quite the same thing in India as it might be elsewhere in the world. And the "shame" factor tends to lock many people into bad situations. However, things are changing in India as well.
Were your parents married as a result of an arranged marriage? If not, your mom has less leeway with asking her side of the family for support.
Regardless, you do have the child help line available to you. And it would be a good idea to check around what is available to you online in your area of India as well.
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Thank you for writing this. And yes, my parents did have an arranged marriage. As a matter of fact, my grandparents didn't even ask for my mother's permission before they married her off and she went along with it to be a good daughter. That's one of the main reasons she hasn't taken much action against him. There's this cultural belief that breaking off a marriage will bring unimaginable shame to you and your family if you're the woman.
As for child services, I'm pretty sure child services in India won't do much if a child isn't beaten black and blue. This is an assumption but its pretty accurate one because i talked to my school counselor today and she basically told me I'm gonna have to stick it out till i can move away