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Thank you for writing this. And yes, my parents did have an arranged marriage. As a matter of fact, my grandparents didn't even ask for my mother's permission before they married her off and she went along with it to be a good daughter. That's one of the main reasons she hasn't taken much action against him. There's this cultural belief that breaking off a marriage will bring unimaginable shame to you and your family if you're the woman.
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That must be even harder for your mom
At the same time, it gives her some leverage in that it was not a 'love' marriage. The responsibility for a bad match is with her parents and grandparents.
She may be able to ask them for help. Do you know if she ever has?
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As for child services, I'm pretty sure child services in India won't do much if a child isn't beaten black and blue. This is an assumption but its pretty accurate one because i talked to my school counselor today and she basically told me I'm gonna have to stick it out till i can move away
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Your father merely falls short of that though. Not by much either. And being sent elsewhere may also make matters better in the short term, and possibly in the long term. Your counselor is being realistic, which is unfortunate. But that is life.
Still, find ways to keep yourself out of the line of fire when your father goes off. Placating him doesn't work, which is probably what your mother has been doing to avoid "making it worse" which in reality only spoils your father and then he ups the ante for the reaction. You and your mom need to get on the same page with each other.
It's horrible for you, no doubt about that. But my bet, your mother has it just as bad and then some aspects you are too young to deal with and are for adults to handle for themselves.
While under their roof , play by their rules, but when you are gone, you can make the rules.