Yeah, I learned long ago that my mother can turn anything personal I tell her around to hurt me. So, I am closed off with all my family since I can’t trust them not to tell her.

For example, just lately, I haven’t told them:
1. About my mental health leave for job related stress/anxiety.
2. That I was fired from my job.
3. And, I stopped updating them on the situation I am dealing with regarding the civil unrest here several weeks ago. They haven’t contacted me to ask how my husband and I are doing, so I guess they don’t even care. Sad, but I guess I have to accept it.

It sounds like you are doing the right thing. Self-care needs to come first.