When someone is not doing well we often react negatively towards almost anything some says to us instead of actually hearing them

So if person X says something and you think for a nano second it’s anything other than a positive.. then shut up literally even if you physically need to cover your mouth with your hand to keep for responding, that can help you stay grounded “ in the moment” then start to pick it apart. Would this person intentionally say anything mean to me ? Can you think of exactly what was said ? If not ? Then ask them to repeat it , again stay present , don’t follow your mind down a rabbit hole. Tap count your fingers while taking a few deep breaths.. again ask yourself would this person intentionally be mean ? lie to you ? If your really having trouble picking it apart you might ask them to say whatever it was again. Again stay present, Tap count fingers, look around focus on an object, breath... sometimes things can be fact checked in 10 seconds or 15 mins

What your trying to do it just Stop... stop all reaction and force yourself to look at it logically.... you need time to just shut your mouth and think.. you might need to ask yourself once or 13 times if this person is being mean, lie or any negative.

People with Borderline for instance learn through DBT how to slow everything down and do self grounding and fact check.

Everyone can benefit to just stopping .. Stop Ground and Fact Check.

Think of it this way ... when you go to make a post on here about something ... do you stop and reread it before you hit reply ? If so ... your already doing the first step ... “ Stop “

I’ll try to come up with a more condensed version , I’m sleepless so I have trouble condensing stuff , but hopefully thing will give you some thing to chew on