[QUOTE=Bill3;6699249]Yes 911 if she is threatening imminent suicide.

But also stop giving here the silent treatment when she does something you don’t like.

If it takes “a long time” for you to become calm, then learning better anger management techniques would be well worth doing.
`````Its good that you dont speak in anger, but the silent treatment and not dealing with serious relationship problems can be passive aggressive. Silent but deadly, as the saying goes, and she could have easily had an accident or been mugged being that drunk. Has she said why she cant keep living with you?