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Old Nov 30, 2019, 04:44 AM
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Originally Posted by bluebicycle View Post
I can’t remember when I last posted, but thank you to everyone who offered support for me. I am feeling a little better now that I am more consistent on my meds. I am still not feeling 100% normal, but maybe more like 70%?

Anyway, I did some Black Friday shopping online today. I'm honestly not a huge fan of consumerism, but my parents want to get me gifts and I feel it'd be wrong of me not to gift anything back. So, I got a bunch of things on sale that my parents needed anyway (like towels and slippers because both of those things have holes in them). Only downside is that I had to ruin the surprises because they were actually going to buy the stuff themselves.

I suppose I'll get my sister a cheap gift like fern46 was suggesting. Not sure what to get though. I'll have to think about that. Maybe makeup stuff, like a $20 gift card to Sephora. She'll probably be pissed though. She demands expensive gifts even though she doesn't reciprocate, not even partially. I am afraid she is going to go bankrupt when she moves out on her own in a few months, but my therapist said not to feel guilty for refusing to help out because she knows better and needs to start respecting people more.
Hey there Blue!

I am thrilled you are doing better!
Nice job catching yourself and getting back on course with your meds.

I hope you will find a solution you can live with re: gifting your sister. It feels like you are getting closer to a resolution..

You might ask yourself what's the worst that can happen if your sister becomes angry?

Changing your approach may put you in a position to talk about your own feelings, as sometimes this type of a shift within a family may raise some issues that need attention.

I'd found this to be true this past holiday when I'd refused to take on all of the responisibility for the holiday, after I had taken it on for many years. Discussing this with your therapst might help you to be prepared for however your sister responds. In truth, she can only get away with her behaviors if the family supports her behaviors.

Great job of taking care of yourself!
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