*Update* Well my last post wasn't ALL correct. It was motivated by my rageful self that sees injustices done to me at every turn! Now that the rage(and I didn't realize it was motivating me), I thought I was operating from a happy medium between submission and rageful anger, but I wasn't. Yes, it was technically just, but there was no love, no mercy. Just cold, hard justice. And I have to be careful of wanting justice that way, because what happens when the next person wants justice against me, it never ends! So...now after the rage flowed away and love flowed back in, I saw that I was being greedy and without kindness or understanding, so I gave back the thing I "won" in the disagreement. But guess what, now I feel I really did win, even without the thing! All is truly well now...Thank you for your patience!