👋 Hi everyone,
Im dont have a major in English Composition so bare with me and my chicken scratch,lol
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Im new here and not sure how this works .but im here anyways to try it out and see the outcome.
I usually dont tell my business.but its anonymous so what the heck, here I Go.☺

im the the kind of person that brushes all things off, I dont take things personally and usually label a troublesome person as having a bad day or struggling with an issue in their life and just venting so i dont take it personally and dont hold on to their baggage I just move on.

I wanted some insight on how to handle Sniper type personalities.

The scenario is the Rude Comments, and fly off the handle behavior that are intended to hurt or sabotage

I understand it must stem from some insecurity they may have but how do you get them TO STOP.
I know you cant control someone elses behavior but can play a vital positive role in them dealing with it

, I usually just ignore the behavior and disregard this as a waste of my time and I'll be wasting my breath on nonsense.

The problem is when ignoring is not enough and the Sniper ,with its toxic behavior escalates involving others in their web of deceit to further the harassment because theyre being ignored.

Yay, me to see this unfold.like a scene from movie, lol
If hollywood was looking for actors theyre get a grammy.

I just let them stand there and let them look stupid all by themselves and choose not to feed their fire by adding my attention towards them as Fuel.

Confronting is even worse.
I tried power phrases.

Is everything ok?Can I help ? Is anything upsetting you?whatever to get to the source of their problem..but nope more attitude back at me.

Trying to empathize like stating im sorry your having a bad day. and it sounds frustrating you have to go through that.does nothing.

But it just intensifys their psychotic state and at times threats of physical harm are harassed in their part to try to further intimidate me but. I can tell thy're full of **** and walk away.

im a peacemaker.if they want to fight they can fight the cops .😉Im just waiting for someone crazy enough to lay a hand on me so I can speed dial and call the cops and they can haul their *** off and drag them away to jail.

Anyways these personalities are everywhere so switching jobs is not the solution.

mind you im totally clueless where it all stems from ?

all their verbal Abuse are unprovoked motives totally Delusional on their part * Fabrication, assumptions & Speculations on their part.
So miserable

It might wear somebody down but I act like they dont exsist..but there has to be a better way to handle toxic people.

I truly dont want to engage in any conversation with them unless its job related and professional.

Im looking for insight on possible problem solving skills.im open to anything positive and constructive .im a problem solver and like a challenge.

And reading the book " How to handle difficult People" did nothing.

Whenever i try to get two words in as to find out whats wrong i just get backlash and the harrasment intensifies creating a hostile environment

.im sure theyre not a lost cause.
Maybe i just need the right tools to handle people like this.

I bend over backwards to not cause vibes but it dont matter. It doesnt change a thing..I'll be sucked dry in no time at this rate.lol
(Just kidding)

Ive taken a light hearted approach to this. Because I choose to be happy and misery loves company so I dont entertain misery and stay positive .but am open and considering another positive route to better this experience

Im truly not intimidated or scared by their behavior.ive taken kickboxing & Karate and can knock someone down like nothing, but choose to only defend my self if its absolutely necessary like a life & death situation other than that im not wasting my energy.

Anyways telling a person in higher position wont do anything and i find it childish to place these concerns when they can see it in plain view..oh yeah they know and choose to do nothing.from the manager, to General Manager , Operational Manager

.if corporate would only do workshops so people could better handle their stress instead of dumping it on others or have effective communication workshops because not everyone come from good homes with good moral character and dont have a chance to develop these skills.

Many people unfortunately dont have access to Health Insurance to get the treatment they desperately need.

Reality is we live in a world that everyone suffers from one form of mental Illness or another at different intensities and degrees AND theyre all over the world and you cant tell who, but their behavior shows red flags.

we as a society unfortunately have to deal with their distress.

theyre past haunts them and they keep reliving that moment and recreating it.its like theyre frozen in time and keep hitting replay and are hostile to everyone they encounter like trying overcome that event..unfortunately im the innocent bystandard that had nothing to do with it but get the wind .
Lucky me 😕

I understand Every person suffers from some type of mental Illness and at different degrees
And may not realize how bad it is.

I know our mind are always evolving hopefully for some of us for the better.but in the case of toxic people they keep hitting rewind, and feel a sense if empowerment by putting others beneath them.

We have to deal with the results of abuse and misuse they probably endured from others and become their punching bag and get verbally assaulted.

What are we going to do as a society?

I choose to be proactive, but could definetly use some advice or a nice book on aggressive behavior and passive aggressive management. Maybe i can give it to them for Christmas with some coal..(Just kidding about the coal)😝

Me being a good role model probably isn't enough

This situation is not stressing me out,I just block them out and pretend they're on a voyage all by themselves and i choose not to join them .

Sometimes i want to laugh when i see how mad they get and im like ..what the hell they on?? Are those truly cigarettes they be puffin on break??

I gotta have a sense a humor to keep myself focused.

And im not quitting , nope. Im here to do my job and pay my bills...Sorry.if they want me out theyre going to have to fire me for being too ugly or cute cause they got nothing else on me..lol .I'll collect and go back to school.
I like to work but i dont mind getting unemployment and collecting I might need the vacation.😉

Maybe because I was raised in a Hostile environment it gave me some back bone and nerves of steel.im not easily shaken.I think I built a high tolerance and became unsensitized because of all the drama that played out in my life that I just see things as normal to some extent or atleast tolerable.

And am unaffected by it.
So maybe thats my downfall , I just dont Care.

I mean I care about helping People and Love my family so I have Healthy relationships.
But when It comes to Toxic People I block them out completely.

but I am willing to learn a more effective approach.
Because im a problem solver and this is one code I havent been able to crack open.
Sorry this is so long , i think I got Carried away.
If you read this much .
Kudos.
You deserve a star.
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