bpcyclist - oh believe, me they are harboring some serious dark secrets and are slipping out tidbits about said dark secrets because I have not been confrontational around my roommate, but rather acting as her live-in PCA to avoid her trying to murder me a la Single White Female Jennifer Jason Leigh style.

tidbit #1: her husband divorced her last year (4 years into this cycle of hers) and remarried.

tidbit #2: she has been fired from every "gig" job she's ever had (in the entertainment industry, that's all I will say) yet her friend of 40 years lamented to me that I don't the "real" her, who is: someone who is the life of the party, who is kind hearted, who fights for women's rights, who is thoughtful and caring and fights for what is right.

tidbit #3: she is wealthy from her gig work and her parents' wealth; her bills are paid electronically BY HER SISTER who has power of attorney over my roommate (go figure that!) yet she complains to me that she needed a roommate when we met this summer, b/c she just lost her job and needs the extra money (normally she pays someone to house sit her cat and her house b/c she takes multiple trips abroad per year, or so I was told by her friend)

tidbit #4: she ignores her ex-husband lawyer's letters and the family court letters mailed to her, to respond to his petition for full custody of their teenager and for child support payments. *I know this because once they were over, and he made their son wait in the car and they argued with each other about it)

I would say outright that my roommate suffers from Dr. Jekyl/Mr. Hyde syndrome because in the 5 months I've lived here, this is who've I've seen:

-someone who blatantly neglects her teenager when the ex-husband tried to bring him over this summer for a week or two at a time; my roommate would come out of her room to greet him, but then go back inside her bedroom and shut the door. Then, yell through the door that I cook her teenager food to eat. The teenager would walk around their house naked talking to himself, laughing a lot, making YouTube videos (with clothes on) but otherwise naked.

-***** hit the fan the first day of school when her ex-husband asked her to drive their son to school. My roommate refused, and asked me to do it yet I was on my way to my different temp job at the time. So, she called her neighbor to take her son to high school. So, then the ex-husband came and took her car away (I don't know whose car it is) and the son left.

-on weekends on Sundays, the ex-husband and son stop by to bring my roommate food (which she will leave her bedroom to eat) and they spend about 15-20 minutes with her then will leave.

- she eats and does god knows what else in her room. If I turn on any house lights, and then go to a different room she'll come out of her bedroom to turn off the lights. If I turn on the outside light and leave, she'll get up from her bedroom and turn off the outside light so that when I come back to her house its pitch black inside.

-I made her sign a legal lease that I created from a template I found online that it would be an open month-to-month lease with a flexible rent based on me paying for her groceries and part of her electricity bill. This past month I spent $300 on Orkin to deal with the mice infestation in her half-million dollar home plus extra money over the 5 months of spending groceries for myself AND her b/c she'd eat my food without telling me anyway. So, I texted her sister today and told her sister that I was now going to pay severely reduced rent (1/4 of what I paid the past 3 months) because of the expenses i've incurred essentially acting as her sister's live in PCA and not being paid by her sister or the county. Her sister texted back that is fine, that i could electronically send her sister the rent payments now since my roommate hadn't deposited my money order rent checks for the past 3 months. I had to redeposit that money and electronically send it to her sister.

-No one that my roommate reached out to today from the mental hospital would come and get her to take her home, so she took a taxi and paid for it herself.

-Her sister nor her 40 year friend could convince the psychiatrists to transfer my roommate to inpatient treatment, which I find highly suspicious if this has been the repeating pattern with my roommate for the past 5 years. So, I definitely don't know the full story.

-When my roommate was gone, and I cleaned out her disgusting room, I found bottles of unopened antidepressants. So, I saw for myself she hasn't been medicated.

I think her sister is responsible for paying my roommate's mortgage.

I am looking for another roommate situation but what I have going against me is, unfortunately, realistic barriers: I have no full-time job (major barrier) and no savings (another major barrier) AND no one I know will take me in temporarily (I posted about that here in another thread so I won't repeat myself). So, I'm on my own as they say.

I have one final paper left to write for my grad school course. I cannot let this crazy person I live with deter me from completing it. It's not a matter of repeating the course either. This is a precarious situation every angle you view it for me. And I need to get the hell out of it unscathed.