I wasn't sure which way to take your question, or which question you mean to poll. Is it can you find love if you have BPD?

Yes, you have a future and it's what you make it. BPD describes a pattern in which you struggle with relationships, but it doesn't mean you can't learn or that you will always be like that. Are you in therapy, and what does your T say about your prospects for happiness? What would you like to get out of therapy?

You might want to take a look at the personality forum also. We talk about BPD quite a bit there.