Wow - 30 years and you and she have never discussed this? I know it is a hrad thing to do, and the longer the time - the harder it will be I think (but I could be wrong). How long have you felt this way?

I do know that security is a very important thing to a woman, and after she learns of the real you and deals with it, her next concern will probably be how it is going to effect her, then you and she. And the children.

It will be important as to how she feels about this issue. Have you any idea what her thoughts may be? Have the two of you ever watched any movies or shows with crossdressers and or transgender people? If so, what were her thoughts? If at all possible, try and get her to watch a movie with one or more of these and see her opinion. And no, I'm not saying it has to be adukt rated. Robin Williams starred in Mrs. Doubtfire or a title close to that. That would be a good one to watch and I'm sure you could rent it at any viedo store.

And no, I don't think you're wacky. If I were a woman, I'd be a lesbian myself. Nothing against guys, but they just aren't for me - shudders!

Keep me informed - my new found friend!

Sam