How well did you know her? Have you spoken on the phone...do other online friends also know both of you? And what's the forum theme? There are so many aspects of this to consider. I have exchanged cards and gifts with online friends many times and it was wonderful. But I had known them for at least a year, spoken with some of them on the phone, and even met one in person.
If your friend is an honest person, and if you are positive that she's a reliable person...well, I would be hurt, too, if I asked to send a card and was told no.
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