I wish you would point out where you are getting snark in my tone, or a lack of empathy. I admit, empathy does not come natural to me, because i was not raised with it. I was raised with constant sarcasm (and criticism), which i try to keep out of my posts, even "funny" ones. I recognize how serious this situation is for you, and i truly feel for you.

I agree, she has not created a safe environment. Her sister tries to make it safer, or safe enough.

I see similarities between this and your recent temp jobs. Like, they keep throwing you the ball, but for some reason you dont run with it. I wish those had turned out better for you. I used to temp, and even when you work your heart out, they tell you youre too slow. Wtf. Plus you are truly alone.

I think you have more freedom to take more responsibility and make more positive choices than you realize. To take action. I am rooting for you to find solutions.

Like they say, it is easier to get forgiveness than to get permission.

Eta - re your response to OE - I can hear my own mother saying to me, "why do you care what SHE does? Just do your own work!" So i have voiced similar gripes. I think its a boundary issue. I know i had very bad boundaries most of my life.