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I hope so. I'm going to give this some time while balancing my affection to both of them. She now knows I know what's wrong and what I think about it. My father has no idea I've finally talked to her. He's trying to fix it by being normal, but it's not doing much, then he gets frustrated and goes back to his normal self, annoyed that she doesn't snap out of it he snaps: "Get out of the bed! Join us! Stop it!".
And he's right to a certain extent. She's prolonging this problem more than she needs to. They have talked about it, he's being nice to her, he's also sad, but he doesn't know how to be sweet. It's unnatural to him to be sweeter than this. And he probably believes that if he keeps denying it, she'll give up fighting. The easy road.
She doesn't want to forgive him. She now says it's too late.
I don't believe SHE likes him. I think she's finding excuses to blame him for her lost of feelings.
I'm not sure if she's not hiding something too. Because, I think she was infatuated by a younger guy - a friend of one of their friends' daughters - and either realized she was being silly, or felt she had no chance, or he started dated someone and she felt rejected. I say this because, some months ago, she was always talking about him, he's in a band, she was all night on the computer listening to music, learning new songs, knowing his band. And suddenly she broke down. Deleted her facebook account, doesn't want to go see their friends anymore, never again listened any music and stopped talking about him.
Maybe she felt like a young janis joplin, liked the attention, the connection, but when she realized it was never going to work out, she realized she had made a wrong choice. And now is looking for excuses. I told her she can't like my father, I've seen how she looks at him and talks about him to him, with resentment for her choice. "He's fat, look at this".
They're both humans.
I just hope she doesn't do anything bad to him or her.
Sorry about these sordid details. But the atmosphere is so toxic. Everything was fine, being here is also very convenient, and now this toxic environment.
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