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Originally Posted by divine1966
Hungover? Is that the same guy with drinking problem? Id say if it’s him, then nothing good will come out of it.
If it’s a new guy then I’d say if you texted in the morning, and he didn’t reply, he wasn’t really planning to have dinner. Did you discuss specific location and time or just hypothetical dinner discussion?
Also when was the last time he called or texted you without your initiating?
And when you say you were with him 4 days, do you mean he organized dates and took you out and you did stuff outside with him and him initiating at least 50/50? Or you just went to his house 4 days ago and spent 4 days in his house not leaving and going home and him making no effort to actually date you?
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Originally Posted by divine1966
Asking you to come over sounds like he doesn’t want to make an effort. Why can’t he pick you up and take you out to a nice restaurant? Stop going to his house. See if he’ll make an effort. If your dating consists of you going to his house, then why would he bother making any effort
If you call and text and he doesn’t reply, there are no serious dinner plans.
People don’t change. He isn’t going to magically become loving attentive boyfriend. It’s not who he is. All you can change is yourself.
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what I need to change is to stop accepting these behaviors. Ignore me and then text me a day or two later, like it’s nothing. I suppose me responding isn’t telling him that I am upset. He respects colleagues more than he does me..brings them lunch, etc. Only once I start to stop accepting shabby behavior will I get respect from people.