I’m glad to see that your not as on edge as when you first started this thread. Often just what I call “ word vomit” basically just dumping all the crap out of your head and talking about it can be very helpful.
Is your husband still teaching co-ops ?? If so is he able to sleep at night so he’s able to teach effectively?
What are your sleep habits for your son ? Is he also sleeping day time ??
Ideally it would be great for all of you to have a more standard bedtimes. But that takes time.
Just keep posting, keep challenging you thoughts ... Fact Check