I hope everyone had a nice Thanksgiving.
To repond to the questions...
No, I don't think he wants to go through a divorce but it is something he says he wants to do/needs to do because they both agree they are happier apart. I don't think anyone wants a divorce in the sense that it isn't how they planned on the marriage going and it isn't a pleasant thing to go through, even under the best of circumstances
I have been to his house, we have dinner out and go see movies (We take turns paying so it's dutch, it's the only way I feel comfortable about it) but we have been and are keeping things on a friend only level. He never cheated on his wife and there is no reason to start now. He was and is a good friend and I want to be there for him, I do love him and want a future with him but I also don't want to do or have him do anything that would be a regret. I think there is a respectable way for us to do this and that is the best foundation to build upon, should we have a relationship.
He does have a lot of assets ranging from businesses to properties and just material things of great value. Although his wife never worked and, they were only married a few years, she didn't contribute to his businesses, houses, etc. there is still a lot to inventory and account for (I don't know how that split that up). Many of the assets are joint with his father and other entities as well so that adds to the complication.
I want to be there for him as a friend but at the same time I don't want to get myself hurt. It seems to be a very fine line.
Thank you all.