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Originally Posted by guy1111
Thanks! I will work on those assertiveness techniques.
But I think maybe they just want our support. Like if she says, "What do you think about X?" She is really just wanting us to say, "Ya, babe! That's great!" Even when inside we're scared or nervous, etc.
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You're welcome! Having to go back and continue working on them myself continuously but it is good change.
I quoted a snippet of your response because I think this may be part of the problem. In that instance, I believe she really just wants your honest opinion, even if the opinion isn't what you think she wants to hear (we have no way of knowing that but think we do). I used to do this often in past relationships and it never ends well.
The trick is not worrying about her reaction and just expressing your honest opinion, while being respectful of course. Then, with whatever comes, you have the piece of mind knowing you were true to yourself.
Hope things have gotten a little better between you two!