I'm not surprised you feel this way about your daughter. It sounds like you two have been in competition over your husband from the beginning, and she always came out the winner. As a result, daddy's happy and both women are left out in the cold.

You adopted this child and made a promise to raise her. Her behavior may belong to her, but it's there for a reason. Turning your back on her in her time of need won't make any of you feel better. If something tragic happened to her, would you feel bad or personally responsible for throwing her out on the streets?

All you can do now is lay down strict rules if she wants to live in your house, and stick to them - BOTH of you. The whole ugly mess could have been avoided if you had agreed on child-rearing methods before adopting a child. It might help if the three of you start out with some family counseling. Maybe you could all find some common ground and rules to live with together.

Good luck. Just remember - she's carrying your grandchild.