Although I can't speak for SoAn,for clarity's sake I'm actually not seeing the checking as a problem, I think what you might be referring to is when I said I was also worried about accidently texting my T whilst checking. But the actual checking isn't a big deal for me, I think because I sense my T wouldn't find it a big issue and also the need seems to be lessening over time as I feel connected to her in healthy ways. It doesn't feel a terrible shameful thing because my T wouldn't make it into that. She would understand it.