This is a post about meeting new people. For a while, I was looking to get more confident until I realized that "how much confidence I need to feel" depends on how I view others. My "best" interactions, [by this I meant my interaction with the closest people in my life] are not characterized by a sense of confidence but by a sense of comfort. Therefore when meeting new people, I realized I should not aim to feel confident but comfortable and that can only happen if I challenge my perspective on others until I can relate to people as human first.