We can all love lilhoneybr,,it is not eclusive to those who fit any criteria or those who do not.

BPD is a disorder built upon fear,,sometimes many levels of it. It is that fear that precludes love. It doesn't remove it, destroy it or even cover it. The fear manipulates it. The fear puts love in front and then when it becomes comfortable,,the fear appears again and pulls the love back. The fear of losing it,,,being abandoned while loving is just too much.

It is this push/pull that strains love for the BPD sufferer and those that love them. But the love is always there.

The best you can do is have competent professional help,,committ to it and learn to trust again.

I know it is hard,,but the rewards are all you and all of us dream of..

IMHO.

Lenny