I have always believed in being direct and giving honest answers. I prefer to just be up front and say no. It causes problems though.

It seems to be generally well accepted if you lie and make up excuses or don’t even give an answer at all. I find people don’t mind that at all.

Recently a friend kindly declined an invite to dinner, telling me she wanted to stay home that day. She was extremely nice about it but I had a funny feeling. I felt annoyed and didn’t know why I felt annoyed.

Then later I heard her talking about how she went over to a neighbors house that same day I had invited her out and how much fun she had.

It wasn’t that big a deal but I would have preferred she just said no and that she had other plans. I will never invite her to do anything again. Not because she said no but because she wasn’t up front with me. It made me wonder what else is she not saying.

I don’t mind people telling me no and I prefer if people just be honest. If someone tells me no and I get a funny feeling, I am not likely to ask again.