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Originally Posted by bpcyclist
Pretty sure this thread belongs here. Guess we'll see what the powers that be think.
I have developed a pretty major problem in my world view and that problem is that I now take a very, very dim view of the majority of people on our planet. What I mean by that is that I have sort of concluded that a large percentage of the population cares mostly or only about their own personal gain. They are not focused on service to others, selflessness, or advancing the common human good. Me, me, me. This is pretty much what I have settled on. Unfortunately.
Because of this, I have also concluded that, at least speaking for myself in my life, most relationships are basically a joke. That person you went on a trip with with your spouses to Hawaii and had such a great time is gone in 60 seconds the minute you become manic and do something kooky. That sibling will choose your wife's side in the bitter divorce process, even though she cheated on you. That nice girl from Sydney you dated really just wants access to your bank accounts. On and on and on.
Please understand, I am not positing that I am any kind of victim. I'm not. This is just how it is, at least that has been my experience. This is what my world experience has taught me. I am not happy about it. I don't enjoy it. But it is definitely how I feel.
The problem with this attitude is that it makes it difficult to meet new people. I go into most interactions expecting very little. I am sure I am giving off some kind of not good vibe and so, I end up not really meeting new people. I have 'friends' at my Alano Club, I feel totally welcome there. But the only other place I feel welcome is here on PC.
So, I am wondering if anyone thinks I can change what is basically a pretty cynical attitude. What should I do? Any input appreciated.
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I don't find it unusual anymore what you describe ,as a friend of mine put it "I dozed off and woke up in a nightmare of generation entitled" nobody really wants to work for anything ,I mean after all they can stab you in the back take it and climb up another rung, unfortunately like the lemmings they have no idea where they are going or what they are after ,other than stuff "Look at me I have XxxxxX" it's all counter productive, anti society decline and in many cases people see it as the answer to perverted capitalism and run away inequality ,never doing the "math" and realising they are making the situation the fear worse .
They antidote is making small friends groups, looking after and knowing your neighbors ,"grass roots" activities that promote the group and not any one member ,simple stuff that us community builders have been promoting for decades that people can't accept ,when instant gratification is on the menu, many will starve ,so to speak .