Wow. I think it is good that you acknowledge your feelings and understand why you have them. I believe knowing why we have certain impulses or feelings weakens their power over us.

I do think it's odd that your psychiatrist would flat out tell you what to do about a major life decision (could he have been joking or not literal?).

To me, it seems that the move could be wrong if your husband is the only person who wants it and you are being forced to go along with it. Is there any benefit for you in moving to Europe or will you be giving up everything you value to accommodate your husband? Will you feel isolated and alone there or are you able to make new friends easily? Will there be other benefits such as increased household income?