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Originally Posted by simplex
The trick is not worrying about her reaction and just expressing your honest opinion, while being respectful of course. Then, with whatever comes, you have the piece of mind knowing you were true to yourself.
Hope things have gotten a little better between you two!
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This makes sense, but for me, if I don't get a respectful response then I lose my focus and she pulls me off on a tangent and I forget all about the original topic. I used to get gaslit all the time by my ex-wife and mother. So, I am hoping that individual therapy will help me to be more grounded and focused and my emotions will be less extreme. Maybe then I can be more assertive and keep the issue from getting clouded.
I could be wrong, maybe a female could chime in. I do think that at times women do want to just hear a supporting response regardless of your true position. The old example would be "do I look fat?" Most times they are just asking "do you still find me beautiful?" I don't think they want to hear "well, honestly you have gained a few pounds but most of it shows in your cheeks and it kind of makes you look more cheery. Maybe you should try hiding it with a little blush."