This makes sense, but for me, if I don't get a respectful response then I lose my focus and she pulls me off on a tangent and I forget all about the original topic. I used to get gaslit all the time by my ex-wife and mother. So, I am hoping that individual therapy will help me to be more grounded and focused and my emotions will be less extreme. Maybe then I can be more assertive and keep the issue from getting clouded.

I could be wrong, maybe a female could chime in. I do think that at times women do want to just hear a supporting response regardless of your true position. The old example would be "do I look fat?" Most times they are just asking "do you still find me beautiful?" I don't think they want to hear "well, honestly you have gained a few pounds but most of it shows in your cheeks and it kind of makes you look more cheery. Maybe you should try hiding it with a little blush."