Therapy is meant to help us get over these things , or at least for them not to have such an impact , holding the emotional " charge " as they do. If a T doesn't understand this they're in the wrong job. It's not your T's experience or perspective with this , it's yours. It's not one size fits all. Someone may have something quite big in their history that doesn't trouble them , then something else that appears minor that troubles them a great deal. It's subjective , and you are allowed to feel it.