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I had been doing really good for a few months but recently I've started having flashbacks every day and I've been having a lot of dreams about everything and it sucks. I just want to move on with my life and keep doing what I've been doing but all this stuff keeps coming back up to haunt me and it hurts a lot.
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It's very common to struggle with flashbacks and triggers "after" getting away from an individual that was emotionally abusive towards you and kept you feeling stressed. When in a relationship you are surviving day after day, there is no down time or safe time to process any of it. It's important that when you experience these flashbacks that you acknowledge them, "yes, that happened but not now, I am safe now". When you do that it reduces the strength of the flashback greatly and eventually it will become more of a memory that doesn't come rushing forward in you in such a disturbing way.
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. I can't help but think to myself that it's not fair that she gets out so easily and on to someone else while I'm sitting here wishing that I could just move past the trauma and feel comfortable about getting into a new relationship.
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She isn't really getting out so easily, she is stuck living with her miserable self and feel sorry for the next guy who will be her next victim.
Give yourself time to regain your ability to just be YOU again, don't be so quick to get into another relationship. At the same time, don't isolate yourself too much, you need to rebuild your ability to interact with others again and just be yourself around others. It's still early yet so give yourself time to heal and find yourself again, patience is paramont with this too.