Is he cognitively impaired in some way? So option 3 would be catastrophic (according to him and maybe it would be, I don't know) but he is only offering phone support if you choose one of the manageable options (as he sees it). Does he understand how therapy works?

Some of his reply reminds me of my therapist and her absolutes and bossiness about what is right for me. However, even she is not stupid enough to only offer support if I choose correctly. There have been times when I have relished her attempts to control and influence me because I have misunderstood it as her care and depth of involvement with me. Of course, the reality is that those behaviours are hers are therapeutic errors and say much more about her process than her feelings about me.

If you go to your parents, I hope you can keep safe because parental space can be a very unsafe place. Remember an escape route and a time bound experience.