I don’t read him at all as saying no support if you go. The current plan is to go, right, so why does that need to be discussed? The harder decision would be not to go or adjust plans in some way, given the parents’ nature, so that’s what the phone call is for. At least in my reading.

I think this is guy is controlling and punitive generally, but he may occasionally like a stopped clock be right about something.

In any case the real question for you, chihiro, seems to be your mental well-being, which does seem to have declined since just last weekend going by your posts, and what is best to do for you.