Text is such a crappy way to communicate important things. The way I read this text is something like "I know that not staying at your parents as you planned to do will be hard to explain to them (options 1 and 2) , and so if you want to do either one of those things I'd be willing to problem solve with you about how to tell them." If you decide to go stay with them as planned you wouldn't need his help to discuss how to approach it with them. I don't hear anything in his response that says that if you decide to go to your parents and things go badly that he wouldn't be willing to talk to you. He just thinks it's a bad idea, and really only you know if he is right or not. I do kind of get what he is saying about the possibility that going to the hospital would get you out of going without having to just tell your parents that you don't want to go. You could make another excuse about why you can't go...sick, plumbing emergency, etc.