Sorry to read about how triggering your older sister is for you. I'm sure I trigger my younger sister because our personalities are so incompatible. I hope you have been able to find ways to soothe yourself after the toxic encounters you have with your older sister that help you feel better. It's unfortunate when our family system is affected by toxic family members' behavior. I understand about feeling traumatized because my younger brother's behavior traumatized me to the point where we will always be estranged.

No, the bottom of her guest bedroom door is more than 1 inch from the floor so I assume I won't be able to find a door stopper large enough. The other problem is her cat will yowl and scratch at any door that is closed in my roommate's house -- understandable...since the cat has had to scratch at my roommate's door to be fed for the past 5 to 6 years, I don't blame the cat at all.

So, I leave my door open at night (against my better judgment). I've tried to shut the cat inside with me, but the cat will still yowl and scratch at the door to get out because she's a cat. And cats are more active at night. So, even if i find a door stopper, I may not be able to use it, with the cat being so vocal and noisy.

I do lock my desktop computer when I leave. I forgot to lock it once, and when I came back and opened up the screen, my roommate had been on my computer into my Facebook account. So, I have no privacy and I am not allowed to install a lock on the guest bedroom door per my roommate's sister's orders.

So, I just need to remember to lock my desktop computer screen when I leave in the morning so that my roommate won't be able to access it. I have to pay her December rent today.

I'm dreading the confrontation that will ensue because I am not paying the full rent amount this month - the deal I worked out with my roommate's sister who STILL has not responded to my texts about whether she was able to get in touch with my roommate/her sister about the reduced rent approval.

I'll find out if my roommate goes off on me, that will mean her sister did not in fact, contact her. OR, it could mean my roommate is mad. And if she's mad, well, too bad.

Oh, and the irony a friend in another state has an apartment available for rent but its $1200/month which I can't afford on my own. Or I'd move there like, tomorrow. Oh well.