We moved from state to state because LA became too expensive for us. Your state is expensive, so consider other states as well as Europe. I think the biggest issue here is prioritizing the issues.
1. Do additional research on the quality of psych care and other aspects that would impact you at various destinations.
2. Have additional discussions weighing the pros and cons of moving and various destinations with your husband. Be careful. Some places really dont have adequate psychiatric care. I have found Phoenix to be far below LA in the quality of psych and medical care. There is more choice in a big city and the universities in big cities lead the way that has a trickle down effect with cutting edge care, med evals, second opinions. I have heard that many countries with socialized medicine have relatively poor psych care and other problems w healthcare. Your h knows in his heart he shouldnt force you to do something youre not comfortable with.
3. Find a new pdoc at your chosen location. Research them. Call and have an actual consultation by phone or Skype to preselect a pdoc. I really feel that putting the focus on the future will reduce your issues with how to part with your very special pdoc.
4. Start to plan your move. I planned our move from Southern California to Phoenix down to the last detail.
IF YOU FOCUS IS ON THE FUTURE, THE SITUATION W YOUR CURRENT PDOC WILL ACQUIRE LESSER IMPORTANCE AND CAUSE YOU LESS DISTRESS. Yes, it is a good idea for your current doctor to brief any new pdoc you select.
I know everything is going to work out for you!