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Originally Posted by bizi
Tonight I found a lot of porn on his side of the computer. I just found a link to free porn videos link under the most visited search. He came home right away so I closed it before opening it up.
maybe he is trying to feel more sexual...we have not been having sex in many many years. I asked him about it in the car coming home from san antonio tx last weekend. He said it was his fault to, not in the mood. "maybe I need to take viagra" I think he has been doing porn for a long time.
Maybe that is because he is doing porn????
what do you think?
bizi
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The problem with porn is that it desensitizes you to actual physical sexual encounters because you start to create unreal comparisons to real people. What he's watching online is an unrealistic depiction and unfortunately you are not desirable anymore and can't live up to the standards because they're impossible to live up to.
That might be hurtful but he's not a lost cause because discontinuing porn use rewires our brain to become more responsive and connected to our sexual partners again.
I was a porn addict for years and while some sexual imagery seems impossible
to escape from, constantly in entertainment, music, film, books, social media I don't go out of my way to view anything and it doesn't destroy my relationships anymore. I don't have issues with women anymore.
If you're interested there's a program and app called covenant eyes that can be placed on the computer and phone. It works as an internet filter and blocks out access to porn sites. It also has an accountability report that can be sent to your partner. So whenever he finds a way to look at porn or is searching something porn related it will send screenshots to your email and you guys can talk about it.
Screen Accountability™ | Covenant Eyes It's a little pricy at $16 a month but it's worth it and you can do a month for free. I've been using it for a while now.