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Old Dec 08, 2019, 10:04 AM
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Originally Posted by bpforever1 View Post
I'm ok, my brother told me I am ugly. Oh well, he is always trying to put me down. But, I feel ok otherwise. He is repulsive looking himself so may be he is trying to put me down so he feels better. I don't think I am gorgeous but just not as repulsive as he is. Anyways, I hope others are enjoying their weekend!
I am sorry your brother treats you this way! I agree with BirdDancer, it's abusive!
Sometimes, we grow up in abusive environments and we do not realize our behaviors, or the behaviors of others around us are abusive.

You might be very surprised by which behaviors are considered "abusive," I know I was!

I invite you to take a look!

CONTROL AND POWER WHEEL:
Wheels - Domestic Abuse Intervention Programs

My brothers tormented me while I was growing up, telling me I was fat and ugly. I believed them. I've looked back at pictures and I was truly neither! Yet, I grew up with a horrible complex because of what they'd constantly told me.

I encourage you to take a look at the link. I have found it very helpful to realize that the behaviors (of others toward me) that upset me, are quite often truly abusive. The "wheels" in the link have validated my experiences for years now.

I hope you can find a way to maybe show your brother that his behavior is abusive?

I hope you can find a way to stay away from him until he promises to stop abusing you!
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