MissCharlotte, that is so wonderful that your session with H went well!! How brave to bring him along. It takes a lot of trust between you and T, at least that's how I felt when I was finally able to bring my H along to therapy (I wasn't able to do it until I'd been with my T for 7 months).

I agree with Lemon--this will help your own therapy a lot, because your T will have firsthand knowledge of your H and how you interact. This is a good thing! And will enrich and deepen your therapy. Congratulations.

When my H comes along, he also sits where my T usually sits. I'm OK with it, as it forces T into his mobile, swivel chair, which I have always liked (because he can get closer to me when he's in it). And also that way he is halfway between me and my H (not playing favorites).

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I thought that it was unethical for a T to treat various family members if T was treating you?

</div></font></blockquote><font class="post">No, it isn't unethical and is not uncommon. Some therapists don't see multiple members of a family, but many family therapists are specially trained in treating the family system and see multiple groupings within the same family, e.g. individuals, the couple, couple with kids, one parent with one child, etc. The groupings in my own family that have seen our therapist are me alone, me and H, and me and H and our two kids. In the future, I and just one of my daughters may also try a few sessions, and there is a chance H might also go alone a few times. The therapist has to be able to keep all the parts of the system straight, and also respect confidentiality of all the players. Like, if I tell him something in an individual session, he can't go blurt it out to H during our couples session. In general, I try to help T out by not having "secrets" that he has to keep from H, and if I am OK with his revealing something, I take the lead in the couples session and bring it up first, so T knows it is OK. It would get confusing for me, but the therapists are trained to do this, and I just put my trust in him and his skill.