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My father's last brother passed this week. He was 88. I am slightly sad. I have decided, however, not to go to the services -- even though they are in the next town and on a weekend.
It basically comes down to survival.
Here is the story. I was friends with his kids when I was a kid and had no ill will for them when I became an adult, but, when I became an adult, I started to realize they were toxic.
I could go into the reasons why but the reality is that these people are not going to bring anything to my life and, if I let them in, they will probably suck me dry of compassion or money or both.
My brother wants me to hang out with them and says things like they are "family". I suspect that he only hangs out with them because he can feel superior around them. And so he gets something out of it.
Also, frankly, this uncle did NOT come to my father's funeral. The kids did come but he didn't because he was ill. Well, not sure I am buying that but ...
Also, I am not friendly with the family and haven't seen them since... I think 1996. I don't see why I should go.
I do feel a little guilty as this is the end of my father's (pre us) family and that is sad... but.. I hope he will forgive me. He was always too kind.
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